It’s hard when you are single and Valentine’s Day comes around. You find yourself surrounded with chocolate, roses, ads for the “perfect” gift, and worst of all, the couples. The people who have someone, holding each others hands gazing into each others twinkling eyes, you just can’t help either feeling bitter, lonely, or both.
The questions start to buzz around in your head, “Why don’t I have someone?” “Why can’t I find a person to be with?” “Am I doomed to live the rest of my life alone?”
“Will I ever find love?”
I write this tonight, not only offer comfort to others in the world, but also some comfort for myself. A couple of days ago I wrote this haiku for the occasion, trying to cheer myself up and hold fast to the this hope that is displayed in the haiku below:
- God is in control. I can take comfort, in that nothing happens without his saying so.
- God is good. I know that he isn’t taunting me and mocking my pain.
“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28
And while that might be a super overused verse and you might feel it’s cliche and stupid. But it’s true! Whenever something terrible happens I hold fast to this verse. This verse tells me that God knows what he’s doing and in the end it will serve a good purpose. Not just for the world, but for me as well.
I also know that even if I never find someone (which I hope it will not come to that), I have my family. Family, not only being my biological family, but the friends that are so close to me, that they are family.
If you are meant to be with someone, it may be hard to be patient. Hard to wait for the man or woman you are meant to be with. But stand firm and be patient. I do not mean do nothing, but wisely keep watch. You never know, your future spouse could be just around the corner, waiting for you.